Comments on: the one thing i know

By: jane

jane — Mon, 11 May 2009 01:55:34 +0000

i find myself constantly reminding myself to allow Him to carry me. different stuff, same need. You have NO idea how much we are struggling similarly. together. today. this week. this month. this season.
satan loves to tell me that i won’t be able to do the job of mother hood (when/if DSS finally does come through!) satan reminds me of all my inadequacy and how i’m not able to do______ . satan is the root of all my negative thoughts and actions. Jesus is the giver of all my joy.
love, hugs and prayers to you.

By: bri

bri — Fri, 08 May 2009 01:36:53 +0000

Kirsten.. You are amazing woman! God is holding on to you very tightly! He delights in you and will indeed NEVER LET YOU GO!

I know that pain as well and my heart aches for you and all other women experiencing this road. I also pray for the day that people will start getting a clue as to when to be sensitive to others facing their complaints.

I have always felt like a sore thumb places because of the conversations the women around me were having. What else is there to do. I had nothing to say.

By: Allison

Allison — Thu, 07 May 2009 04:04:03 +0000

I’m not sure if I have ever commented before. Have been reading for a while now. Been there, we have had our moments of sad times and trying to understand the family God wants us to have. We are fairly early in the process of foster to adopt (siblings placed with us in Nov). It sure is an emotional process, with many ups and downs. All I know is God is with us, and He won’t let us go. We can’t even imagine our lives without these beautiful children (hopefully we will never have to). Thanks for sharing your journey!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 06 May 2009 20:36:29 +0000

Kirsten….it is always a blessing for me to be able to connect with others who face infertility issues. Dan and I went through it….with both of us having problems. At the time we were in the thick of it, my heart was bleeding with the pain of it all, and it felt like every single person around me was pregnant. I can’t even count the times I heard, “And we weren’t even trying!” or “We decided to try this month and now we’re pregnant”. I envied their luck, while wondering the big WHY of it all. Why do some of us face this painful issue? Do people really understand the strain it puts on every aspect of your life? Our marriage…my faith in God…was so severely tested. I know we came out of it stronger though, thanks to friends and a lot of prayer. :) Our little girls are a daily reminder of our journey, and I am so grateful for it. Thanks so much for sharing your story. I think infertility is something that people should be aware of….not some dirty secret we don’t talk about. I am not ashamed of it. It has helped shape me into who I am right now.

By: Katy

Katy — Wed, 06 May 2009 20:04:26 +0000

Thank you Kirsten. Jon and I went through infertility before having Grace, and I am right there with you. I cried on more than one occassion over the comments that my friends w/ kids made… and I complained about the same things after I had kids… and at times have even questioned our determination to get pregnant. Thank you so much for sharing your heart.

By: sarah

sarah — Wed, 06 May 2009 19:14:29 +0000

you are such an encouragment! I miss you so much!

By: Diana

Diana — Wed, 06 May 2009 19:05:14 +0000

One more thing to remember is that you are not alone in this journey. Not only is Christ there to support and heal you, but so are other people. I, personally, am very thankful for modern technology that allows us to connect with each other with the click of a button – something that would otherwise have been impossible even just a few short years ago.

I, too, have had experiences similar to this. I know very well those lonely times when everyone seems to be complaining and taking their precious gifts for granted. But you know what? I complain now, too…and I am also still bugged when people who have no idea how difficult the parenthood road really can be for some of us continue to whine about it. Most of them have absolutely no clue how hard it really is for some people to actually get kids here AND they have absolutely zero clue about what hard really is or what tired really is. Whining about normal kid stuff (and then trying to make it equal to traumatized kid stuff) still feels like fingernails on a chalkboard.

I’m glad you shared your heart today. It makes me feel a little less weird and a little more like the “normal” and “real” mom God intended for me to be.

There’s a great blog out there that is meant to be shared with all adoptive families. If you haven’t already found it, check it out. http://adoptionconnect.blogspot.com/ The lady that runs it has some awesome insights and also often has various people guest blog for her. Her goal is to talk about all those issues that people are often too afraid to talk about otherwise. Her most recent post is very good!